I'm a party pooper

[daBaroness]

OK - so I admit it - I'm a party pooper. But could we maybe cut down on all the birthday wish threads in Hussies Hangout? I don't mean the regulars - but I've seen birthday wishes for wenches who haven't been online in months or years. Let's save the bandwidth for the "live" ones who actually post here on a fairly regular basis - and maybe send a private message to the others.

Let the flaming begin.

[Ysobelle]

My first thought? Oh, hell, yeah.

Second thought: we have some really cool wenches here who don't post a lot. How do we know, y'know? I think we either have to do it for everyone, or no one.

Maybe?

[Torra]

Ok, I know I'm new here but seeing my birthday thread really made a sucky day good. As Yso said, it's an all-or-nothing thing, since you'd risk seeming discriminatory/playing favorites. There's no way to tell someone "sorry, you didn't make the cut for person who gets an open happy birthday" without being perceived as slightly mean, even if you explain the reasoning.

[sslider66]

There could be one post each day that lists all the people having birthdays that day.

Or there could be a new section devoted strictly to birthday wishes and the such.

Just a couple of ideas. ;-)

Shelia

[Lady Sarah]

I'm behind the separate forum (which means we need to hit up Snipe) or one grouped Birthday Wish thread each day.

The once daily Birthday Wish Thread is the most feasible.


and as long as we're on the party pooper train... do we have to have so much daily cuteness? I can't handle that much sugar and cuteness.

[Margaret]

~shrug~ For me it falls into the "If you don't want to read it or post to it, don't" kind of category.

[Peaches O Malley]

~shrug~ For me it falls into the "If you don't want to read it or post to it, don't" kind of category.
I'm with you lady. *meh* whatevah. :wink:

[surlywench]

I'm with you lady. *meh* whatevah. :wink:

hey look! A wench-wagon!! I'm so jumping on that one....WOOT!

[Peaches O Malley]

hey look! A wench-wagon!! I'm so jumping on that one....WOOT!

Oooh, bring dark chocolate and meade. ;-)

[surlywench]

well, duh, peaches....those are standard issue 'round here. tho i've got some bailey's for me lonesome as i don't likey the meade so much.

[kyrana]

I'm of 2 minds on this one. Having recently celebrated my birthday (and been the recipient of a birthday wishes thread) it was :-D nice :-D to receive acknowledgement of my special day. From a bunch of people I don't know. Who wouldn't know me if we passed on the street. Who often have opinions and beliefs that are radically different from mine. Who probably couldn't recall any specific conversations/threads we had participated in together. (As you can see, my streak of cynicism is alive, and well-nourished.)
I think I would much rather have private messages from people who know me (even a little) rather than a thread with random smilies from random people. I don't post to bday threads myself unless I have had some interaction with the person and feel like they'd at least know who I was.
(This is not directed at people who participated in my thread - most of them were people I knew at least well enough to call them by a diminutive name. But in general, I kinda feel like bday threads are some sort of covert self-aggrandazing popularity contest thing. Send a PM - let them know you care enough to not draw attention to it!)

[La Femme Meow]

Awww, Baroness, can't I coax an itsy-bitsy B'day wish from you today? I know I haven't been online (computor died) but I still love you guys.

[Buxom Wench]

Awww, Baroness, can't I coax an itsy-bitsy B'day wish from you today? I know I haven't been online (computor died) but I still love you guys.

Happy Natal Meow!
May you be blessed with all things wonderful
and spoil yourself to the max. ::hug::

[WenchLadyKate]

Why not just check if the birthday Wench has posted in the last 6 months? If not, can we just assume that this person isn't active on the board? Even those that lurk most of the time still post once in a while, and if they don't then they probably won't be offended if we don't send birthday wishes.

I find it hard to keep up with them all and sometimes I feel guilty if I say good wishes for some and not others. Sometimes, I don't check the boards for a couple days and I get back and there's a bunch of postings for cuteness and birthdays. I just ignore them, but it would be less overwhelming if there weren't quite so many.

I'm all for the daily birthday thing, or even a weekly birthday thing for active members. I'm also all for the weekly cuteness (I do subscribe to www.cuteoverload.com)... although, the kitten in the baseket is now my wallpaper. I swear that is the cutest kitten I have ever seen in my entire life!

[Buxom Wench]

Looks like we're damned if we do and damned if we don't. :roll:

[Buxom Wench]

Why not just check if the birthday Wench has posted in the last 6 months? If not, can we just assume that this person isn't active on the board? Even those that lurk most of the time still post once in a while, and if they don't then they probably won't be offended if we don't send birthday wishes.

That's what I try to do.

[Peaches O Malley]

That's what I try to do.
You can only do so much. ::hug::

[Isabelle Warwicke]

I think that it's neato that there is a banner under Meow's avatar that says today is her birthday. I never noticed that before.

I like the birthday wishes seperate forum, but could we do it calendar style, so you could see the month, not just the seperate posts. That way if you are like me who turns 30! *eepgulp* at the end of January and plan to go into hiding for the week, when you return, you may just click on our day, not have to sort through and find your thread.

*sniff* Bye-bye 20's.

[Lady Sarah]

I think that it's neato that there is a banner under Meow's avatar that says today is her birthday. I never noticed that before.

I like the birthday wishes seperate forum, but could we do it calendar style, so you could see the month, not just the seperate posts. That way if you are like me who turns 30! *eepgulp* at the end of January and plan to go into hiding for the week, when you return, you may just click on our day, not have to sort through and find your thread.

*sniff* Bye-bye 20's.

I think you and I have a birthday either on the same day or a few days apart. And 30 isn't bad :-D it's not that bad at all. I still feel like I'm in my 20s.

[Buxom Wench]

And 30 isn't bad :-D it's not that bad at all. I still feel like I'm in my 20s.

Hell, I'l be 44 in a few weeks and *I* feel like I'm in my 20's.

Age is just a number...it's what you do with it that matters.

[Isabelle Warwicke]

Hell, I'l be 44 in a few weeks and *I* feel like I'm in my 20's.

Age is just a number...it's what you do with it that matters.


I'm still going into hiding with 75% dark cocoa chocolate & port for my birthday week. I'm sure when I'm in my 40's, 50's, even 60's that the 30's won't be so very bad when I look back on them... They are just looming right in front of me. Gloating.

ps. my birthday is January 28

[Buxom Wench]

I'm still going into hiding with 75% dark cocoa chocolate & port for my birthday week. I'm sure when I'm in my 40's, 50's, even 60's that the 30's won't be so very bad when I look back on them... They are just looming right in front of me. Gloating.

ps. my birthday is January 28

My 20th birthday was the WORST!
I was no longer a teen, I was married and had a 6 month old child.

Talk about major changes all at once.

By the by, I went to a store today, here in NYC, that carries 99% Dark Cocoa Chocolate!::wicked::

[Lady Sarah]

My 20th birthday was the WORST!
I was no longer a teen, I was married and had a 6 month old child.

Talk about major changes all at once.

By the by, I went to a store today, here in NYC, that carries 99% Dark Cocoa Chocolate!::wicked::

I didn't look at it that way. I saw 21 as an adventure!

and btw, I can't handle 99% cacao. it's just too astringent. I can barely handle 85% with a cup of strong coffee. I'll stick with the 65%, thankyouveddimuch.

[Peaches O Malley]

I'll stick with the 65%, thankyouveddimuch.

Yep, I need a little sweetness myself..65% works for me.

[DoñaNina]

By the by, I went to a store today, here in NYC, that carries 99% Dark Cocoa Chocolate!::wicked::

HELLS. YES.

[Buxom Wench]

HELLS. YES.

www.teuscher-fifthavenue.com

They also had some GREAT dark chocolate with chili in it!

Oh.

My.

Goddess.

:faint:

[Emrld]

That way if you are like me who turns 30! *eepgulp* at the end of January and plan to go into hiding for the week, when you return, you may just click on our day, not have to sort through and find your thread.

*sniff* Bye-bye 20's.

Yes, but you will have your beautiful furniture to wake up to and see on your birthday. It will be the first of many birthdays with that site for you. (just another perspective to look at the day from)

I think a weekly wish or one for the day that just says hey here are the birthdays . . .not necessarly one that people can post replys too - if they want to reply then they can pm the person whose day it is.

[FairieTink]

Personally, I like seeing them, I guess I am of the mind, if you don't like reading them, ummm SKIP them 8-), that's what *blank#* of new posts is good for, skip right past those of us sending love and birthday wishes out.

[Isabelle Warwicke]

By the by, I went to a store today, here in NYC, that carries 99% Dark Cocoa Chocolate!::wicked::


:shock: I don't think my body would handle that very well. 85% is high for me and it's more a "medicinal" usage. 99% would probably send me into shock.

[Vixynne Rose]

Personally, I like seeing them, I guess I am of the mind, if you don't like reading them, ummm SKIP them 8-), that's what *blank#* of new posts is good for, skip right past those of us sending love and birthday wishes out.


I'm with Tink...while I can understand that it might not be everyone's cuppa, there's nothing that says you can't just skip the threads you don't care to read. If it's too sweet for your tastes, ignore it...threads have a short enough shelf life that it shouldn't be a huge deal, right? ;-)

I guess I'm a little sentimental--okay, fine, I'm reaaaaally sentimental--but I like seeing the birthday wishes. There have been times when seeing a "hey lookit the cuteness" post has brought the first smile I'd been able to wrangle up all day.

[Laurensa]

Hell, I'l be 44 in a few weeks and *I* feel like I'm in my 20's.

Age is just a number...it's what you do with it that matters.

Hear hear!

Also 43, and don't feel it...but oooh, I'm gonna tease my hubby when he turns 45 in January. (Actually, what's weird is knowing that my sister just turned 46. For some reason that really seems odd to me..)

[Peaches O Malley]

Personally, I like seeing them, I guess I am of the mind, if you don't like reading them, ummm SKIP them 8-), that's what *blank#* of new posts is good for, skip right past those of us sending love and birthday wishes out.
Think of it like the T.V. if you don't like the program...change the station.8-)

[Ysobelle]

I think what Wendy was saying, though, is that it's not so much the birthday wishes, but the fact that they're put up for Wenches who none of us know. People who've signed up, but never posted.

[Isabelle Fawkes]

OK - so I admit it - I'm a party pooper. But could we maybe cut down on all the birthday wish threads in Hussies Hangout? I don't mean the regulars - but I've seen birthday wishes for wenches who haven't been online in months or years. Let's save the bandwidth for the "live" ones who actually post here on a fairly regular basis - and maybe send a private message to the others.

Let the flaming begin.

::fire::::fire::::fire::::fire::::fire::

You asked for it ::whistle::

[La Femme Meow]

I'm an independent woman, used to being on my own. I have neither husband nor children, no sisters or brothers. My parents are dead, my aunts whom I dearly loved are dead. Most of my closest friends have passed on or moved on.

You guys are wonderful! From the serious to the silly, the stuff that makes me splatter tea or coffee or wine all over the screen to the things that make me angry or heartbroken, the things that are shared are extraordinary. With those who share often to those who only browse, I feel I sisterhood.

The thing about that my birthday is that it always falls close to Thanksgiving and therefore I have been blessed with family and friends to celebrate with for many years. I can't think of a more precious gift. Now that parents and beloved aunts and close friends have passed on, birthdays are particularly lonely days.

If a sister-wench notes my birthday and remembers that I have posted something funny, something serious, something helpful and sends me good wishes, I am doubly appreciative: once for the good thoughts and then for a plug in the void of a solitary birthday.

I'm always glad to see birthday greetings, to stop for a minute and think of that person, to hope they have a happy day, a good productive year. I like seeing other people add their own best wishes. Whether or not I feel I "know" the person well enough to add my own greetings, I enjoy seeing the exchange of good thoughts.

This is a touchy subject on a touchy day, since it does happen to be my birthday. I am so grateful for anyone who chooses to send good wishes my way and I love seeing everyone's birthday acknowledged.

Bless y'all.

[Peaches O Malley]

I'm an independent woman, used to being on my own. I have neither husband nor children, no sisters or brothers. My parents are dead, my aunts whom I dearly loved are dead. Most of my closest friends have passed on or moved on.

You guys are wonderful! From the serious to the silly, the stuff that makes me splatter tea or coffee or wine all over the screen to the things that make me angry or heartbroken, the things that are shared are extraordinary. With those who share often to those who only browse, I feel I sisterhood.

The thing about that my birthday is that it always falls close to Thanksgiving and therefore I have been blessed with family and friends to celebrate with for many years. I can't think of a more precious gift. Now that parents and beloved aunts and close friends have passed on, birthdays are particularly lonely days.

If a sister-wench notes my birthday and remembers that I have posted something funny, something serious, something helpful and sends me good wishes, I am doubly appreciative: once for the good thoughts and then for a plug in the void of a solitary birthday.

I'm always glad to see birthday greetings, to stop for a minute and think of that person, to hope they have a happy day, a good productive year. I like seeing other people add their own best wishes. Whether or not I feel I "know" the person well enough to add my own greetings, I enjoy seeing the exchange of good thoughts.

This is a touchy subject on a touchy day, since it does happen to be my birthday. I am so grateful for anyone who chooses to send good wishes my way and I love seeing everyone's birthday acknowledged.

Bless y'all.
If just ONE wench feels this way it's SOOO worth posting..

HAPPY BIRTHDAY!::hug::::crazyparty:::birthday: hun.........
and Brightest Blessings.:wink:

[FairieTink]

I think what Wendy was saying, though, is that it's not so much the birthday wishes, but the fact that they're put up for Wenches who none of us know. People who've signed up, but never posted.

Hun I lurk here a lot, just because someone doesn't post doesn't mean they don't read. Heck, I've been here years and there are a lot of newer wenches that have triple my number of posts. But I do check the boards daily. I guess if you're posting just to post that is one thing, but if I am going to post or reply to a birthday wish it is for someone I've spoken with before.

[Ysobelle]

Hun I lurk here a lot, just because someone doesn't post doesn't mean they don't read. Heck, I've been here years and there are a lot of newer wenches that have triple my number of posts. But I do check the boards daily. I guess if you're posting just to post that is one thing, but if I am going to post or reply to a birthday wish it is for someone I've spoken with before.



Same here. I post when I know someone, even it it's just through their posts, and we've never met-- otherwise it seems too insincere, and birthdays are too important for that.

Having said that, i don't know you WELL, Meow, but a very happy belated birthday to you! Hope it was yummy! And in case I've never said it, your icon ALWAYS makes me smile!

[Luciana]

I do not post much either, but log and read every day the threads. Sometimes I laugh; sometimes I cry or decide to have an argument with somebody. But is nice to be remembered even the people do not know you directly.

[Selena]

Ok, I know I'm new here but seeing my birthday thread really made a sucky day good.

It made me feel good to know that someone took the time to be a doll and opened up a new thread just for me. I'm not all into the sweetie-pie-cutsy stuff, either... but it did make me feel good that there are others on this board who care enough to say a quick HB to me.

[merestelle]

I used to like seeing the Happy Birthday Posts. But lately it seems like every other posts is a birthday greeting, and most are names I don't remember ever seeing before.

I don't post often. I reply more often than anything. But I read the boards every day. There are great people here. Some of us only know one another from these forums. Many of us met because of the contact we made here.
I think it's great to acknowledge one another. But save the generic wish to someone you've had no prior contact with.

That being said...
When everyone and their Aunt Mabel is being sent greetings, it is a bit of a let down when you aren't acknowledged. :wah:

I was feeling kinda lonely on my birthday. My bf was working, I tried to make the best of it by getting some me time and spent the day at faire.
I was doing something I loved but I felt alone. I must admit to being a bit disapointed when there was no Happy Birthday for me on the board when I got home. ( Yes, cheese would be lovely with that whine)

Meh! This moment of self pity has passed.

Yeah it can be mildly annoying at times, But good wishes are never wasted.

Cake for everyone!

[Ysobelle]

Oh, no! When was your birthday?

[Mairi the Herbwench]

Mine wasn't acknowledged either - and I felt the same. I post once in a while, but it didn't seem to matter. So, I put on my Big Girl Panties, annonced it myself, got a few good wishes, and moved on.

C'est la vie!

[Lady Sarah]

Mine wasn't acknowledged either - and I felt the same. I post once in a while, but it didn't seem to matter. So, I put on my Big Girl Panties, annonced it myself, got a few good wishes, and moved on.

C'est la vie!

y'know, on the heels of this, I clicked your profile to see if your birthday was listed... and you, honey, don't look your age. not at all.

[serena]

I'm sorry if I have offended anyone. That was not my intention by posting the birthday wishes, I just know what it is like being the new kid on the block not knowing anyone and not knowing what to say. It was nice to see a birthday wish posted for me, and I appreciated it alot so I figured that some of the wenches that I have seen post here would like a wish as well in good return. I will be stopping now, posting that is and monitoring my posting. Thank you , Serena

[rosefaeries]

I'm sorry if I have offended anyone. That was not my intention by posting the birthday wishes, I just know what it is like being the new kid on the block not knowing anyone and not knowing what to say. It was nice to see a birthday wish posted for me, and I appreciated it alot so I figured that some of the wenches that I have seen post here would like a wish as well in good return. I will be stopping now, posting that is and monitoring my posting. Thank you , Serena

Don't stop posting nor is there much need to monitor what you post. I think you would have to work harder than that to offend anyone here.

[Peaches O Malley]

Don't stop posting nor is there much need to monitor what you post. I think you would have to work harder than that to offend anyone here.
I second that!

[Jayde]

I was feeling kinda lonely on my birthday. My bf was working, I tried to make the best of it by getting some me time and spent the day at faire.
I was doing something I loved but I felt alone. I must admit to being a bit disapointed when there was no Happy Birthday for me on the board when I got home. ( Yes, cheese would be lovely with that whine)




I wish I could've made it like I said we were hoping to. We just didn't have the money that weekend. I was looking forward to wishing you a happy birthday.
I was gonna post it on here, but I don't think I got a chance to before I turned the computer over to the other half.

[Nicole]

Well....I think I qualify as one of the anonymous no-posting wenches that received a "Happy Birthday" When I saw it on the board I was thrilled and thought it was so sweet. I don't post a lot - school full-time, work-full-time, mom and spouse full-time, blah, blah, blah AND oddly, I am way more shy online than in real life, I get all flustered posting. Then I thought, I lurk all the time I need to start posting". Then I saw this thread and thought, "Hmphf! maybe I shouldn't post because I'm one of those 'unknowns'". Then I realized that I'm not 3 years old, :lol: Anyway just thought I would say "Hi" and that I appreciated the birthday greeting, it was a very pleasant surprise. If it had been in a weekly or monthly post or in a different category, I would have been just as thrilled. It made me feel welcome.

[Mairi the Herbwench]

I'm not offended - it takes a lot more than that to offend me - so Serena - keep on posting! And reading! And participating! And announcing birthdays! They generally are special days and worthy of notice, but I do agree that perhaps a monthly list (or weekly) would be better than daily. And Lady Sarah - thanks for the egoboo!;-) Part of my secret - I've never smoked. And (commercial announcenment warning) I use Avon's Anew. And I'm a glorious 50! Even older than DaB - by a couple of months...

[Jayde]

Wow, Mairi, I just looked too (I'm home sick again, so I can actually read the other posts instead of skimming like at work)
You definitely don't look your age. It's fun when people think you're younger isn't it? I used to love doing that, asking people how old they think I am. I usually get answers between 17 and 23 (and that's even with my glasses on, no make-up, and my hair in a ponytail). :lol: I mean, yeah, I'm only 28, but still when someone thinks I'm 17 or 18 ::yay:: . It makes me feel that much more positive about how I'll look further down the line.

As far as picking on others when they turn a certain age, my Rogue just turned 30 in Sept (thanks for posting it Peaches :aok:) and I swear, he acted worse than any woman I have ever known, or seen. He kept complaining for practically the whole year "I'm gonna be 30!" *rotfl*

[Lady Anisette]

When I joined this forum, one of the things that appealed to me was the sense of caring and community. I loved the fact that the birthdays were celebrated. It made me feel warm and fuzzy. I thought that this was a place I wanted to be....

Now, one year later and I see griping and bitching because of the birthday postings? Okay, so there are a lot of them. There are also quite a lot of people on this board. For those of us going through a really miserable time, a simple birthday greeting can go a long way to add cheer to our day. If you don't want to read them, then don't. What makes me sad, is that since this posting went up, the birthday celebrations have dwindled. Because of a few, we are not going to offer the cheer, friendship and caring that drew so many of us here in the first place? How sad.

Innocence, enjoy your day and I am glad that I brought you some cheer. To the wench that sent me the PM birthday greeting... you are truly one classy lady. Thank you.

[Lady Sarah]

OK - so I admit it - I'm a party pooper. But could we maybe cut down on all the birthday wish threads in Hussies Hangout? I don't mean the regulars - but I've seen birthday wishes for wenches who haven't been online in months or years. Let's save the bandwidth for the "live" ones who actually post here on a fairly regular basis - and maybe send a private message to the others.

Let the flaming begin.


Just quoting and copying what the original thought was of this thread.

I don't think anyone is saying STOP all together, what's being said is very plainly stated. I believe what dB is trying to say is very cut and dried.


Maybe it *would* be better if we talk to Snipe and ask her if a Birthday forum can be set up for the threads. That way, you won't see them unless you specifically look in that forum... or do like I do and click "View New Posts".

[Ysobelle]

Yeah, I'm going to back up dB and Sarah AGAIN: NO ONE is saying to stop the birthday greetings entirely. All that dB said was maybe we can cut down on them for a Wench who, say, signed up in 2004 and immediately dissapeared, never to be heard from again.

And since then, we've heard from plenty of Wenches who said even though they don't post much, they love seeing their names in the greetings. So I think, at this point, this is pretty much a dead debate. The birthday greetings are harmless, and they make some Wenches feel really good. Yay! Woot!