Baby making help, myths, whatever works

[Gwen]

Hello ladies,
So we are looking to expand our family. It's been 4 1/2 years since we got married and we are about as ready as we will ever be (short of our winning the lotto or powerball or something).
I am diabetic but have my numbers in check and am all transferred onto insulin. I am off all my pain pills and off BC for over a year now. My weight is still high but that is a medical thing and will never fully change. Besides it makes me curvy, big, and beautiful! But with that said, I have lost 62 pounds over the past 12 months and am still losing.
So here is my question... any myths, old wives tales, hints, which ever to help a wench become a mommy wench? Feel free to throw them all out there (don't worry about religious constrictions as I am of an open mind). So far all I have is a few things the doc told me. 1) Only do it once ever 12 hours to keep his sperm count up and 2) Stay in bed 30 mins afterwards to give the little guys a chance to swim to the prize.
I hope this isn't too personal but I am just looking for general stuff. Put a tie on the door knob kind of thing. I am not looking for a full pornographic description of how you conceived your bundle of joy! Although I do hear they offer good money for those stories elsewhere! Thanks for the advice and whatever you can come up with.

Gwen

[Sorcha Griannon]

Ok, here's something that worked (2 times) for me. Go to www.babycenter.com and look for their ovulation calender. You'll need to track your cycle for a couple months to get it set up, but the first time I was fertile, I got pregnant. I tried the little microscope that you lick and let dry to see the pattern the salt takes. Also, once you do have sex, prop your hips up for 15 minutes or so, just to be safe. Good luck!


Sorcha

[Mistress Morigianna]

fertility animals are bunnys, hippos and frogs. get statues & stuffed animals and put around the room.

we sell a fertility oil at dragonmarsh to put on your candles.

Don't forget to rock empty cradles and rub pregnat tummys (with permission)

[Buxom Wench]

Seriously...DON'T TRY!

I don't mean don't try to have a family, just don't think about the actual conception.
Everyone I know that was "trying" thought about it so much, they put major stress on themselves and had a harder time.
Just enjoy the 'process' and let Mother Nature take her course.

I'll send blessings anyway to help you along. :wink:

[SpeedKnight]

Seriously...DON'T TRY!

I don't mean don't try to have a family, just don't think about the actual conception.
Everyone I know that was "trying" thought about it so much, they put major stress on themselves and had a harder time.
Just enjoy the 'process' and let Mother Nature take her course.

I'll send blessings anyway to help you along. :wink:

I know I'm just a rogue, but I have to agree with Bux.

I've seen it all happen time and time again. People put so much stock in "we hafta conceive" that things go awry. The guys count goes down. The egg doesn't take. Whatever.

Seriously. The best way to have a kid is to just have sex like you really enjoy having sex. Don't take any precautions to NOT have a baby, and, as my 3 kids and Bux's 4 can attest, you'll end up lucky. :)

[Phoenix McHeit]

My Mom's advice - given freely to anyone and its never been known to fail yet - is to have sex every OTHER day.

As long as everything works right, his count is good, your eggs are viable, etc... it should work within 6 months. Enjoy having sex for sex's sake. Because you love the person you're with, because it feels good, because you're sharing a special moment. Not because you 'gotta conceive'.

Other than that - relax. Tense women don't ovulate on schedule.

And seeing as how I have 4 - all within 5 years - I'll send you all the baby-making vibes I can spare!

[The Wizard]

My Mom's advice - given freely to anyone and its never been known to fail yet - is to have sex every OTHER day.
I've heard that once a week works best. Also have hubby wear boxers rather than briefs and maybe get one of those genital-cooling thingys--that can help his count.

[Pansy Faye]

I wish you the best of luck. I have no advice to give since I am so fertile I even got preggers while on the pill, hence my 22 year old. My son, the youngest, was the only planned child and I knew my ovulation date and said tonight's the night and yup I was pregnant the next morning. I'm one of those perfect concubines - *sultan snaps fingers* You have a child --- yes sir --- 9 months later = baby.

I had perfect pregnancies too, no morning sickness, never waddled. Just told myself it's all in your mind and I didn't have it. Labor was another story, all 3 'sunny side up', but I wouldn't have changed anything for the world.

I wish you the best of luck and maybe twins the first time out. How cool would that be!!!!

[lavender r dragon]

maybe twins the first time out. How cool would that be!!!!

not as cool as you think ;-)

i'm psuedo-stepmother to a set of twins and i love them and they are just too cute but like any siblings they get along sometimes and sometimes not....plus you get the constant questions: "are they twins?", "how old are they?", "they are just so cute!", "which one is older?", "how far apart are they?", "do they have different personalities?" , etc. it gets very repetitive.

and then the occassional dumb questions like "are they twins? (yes) do they have the same birthday?" :unamused: (my boyfriend swears someone asked him that) or "are they twins? (yes) oh, are they the same age?":unamused:

anyway...good luck to you.

[SpeedKnight]

plus you get the constant questions: "are they twins?", "how old are they?", "they are just so cute!", "which one is older?", "how far apart are they?", "do they have different personalities?" , etc. it gets very repetitive.

ha! We get the same stuff about our boys... and they're a year and 2 weeks apart. Hell... I think even some of the folks here on the boards have asked!

[LdyJhawk]

not as cool as you think ;-)

i'm psuedo-stepmother to a set of twins and i love them and they are just too cute but like any siblings they get along sometimes and sometimes not....plus you get the constant questions: "are they twins?", "how old are they?", "they are just so cute!", "which one is older?", "how far apart are they?", "do they have different personalities?" , etc. it gets very repetitive.

and then the occassional dumb questions like "are they twins? (yes) do they have the same birthday?" :unamused: (my boyfriend swears someone asked him that) or "are they twins? (yes) oh, are they the same age?":unamused:

anyway...good luck to you.

Surprisingly, the "do they have the same birthday!" question is valid.

One can, officially be born on a different day if the actual births occur towards the midnight time frame :P

[Buxom Wench]

Surprisingly, the "do they have the same birthday!" question is valid.

One can, officially be born on a different day if the actual births occur towards the midnight time frame :P

I went to HS with a set of twins that were not only born on different days, but also different years! (Dec 31 @ 11:57PM and Jan 1 @ 12:02AM)

[Gwen]

I went to HS with a set of twins that were not only born on different days, but also different years! (Dec 31 @ 11:57PM and Jan 1 @ 12:02AM)

All I can say to that is "impressive". That HAS to be such a rare occurance! As to me having twins. If I am blessed that way, great! If not, even better!
Part of me wishes I would just get PG right now, so I can tell my dad on his 60th bday that he was going to be a grandfather. He and mom are all ready for it. They are NOT putting pressure on us in any way. I am not even really sweating it yet.
I just dream about how it may be as a mom. Other times, I think "what the heck am I thinking? I am too selfish to be a mom." Or something like that. Most times, I know I will be a good mom. At least I hope I will be. I think that is normal things to think before becoming a mom, right?
I know my hubby will be an awesome dad. Since we met, I have seen him around kids and he is SO good with them.
Ok, it's 2:30 am and I have to spend time with his family tomorrow. So I guess I should go to bed. That and I am tired and have found myself in ramble mode. None the less, thanks for all the well wishes and advice!

Gwen

[Alluring Alora]

My friend's wife used to stand on her head after, um, trying...

It worked, their son is here, and he's a keeper!

I suppose propping up your hips up with pillows might assist with gravity just as well, but I think a headstand is WAY funnier....

Good luck to you sweetie!!

[Adriana Rose]

I would go with the stop trying method. I was not even thinking about babies and I got pregnant.. so stop trying and have some fun!

[UnicornBee]

ha! We get the same stuff about our boys... and they're a year and 2 weeks apart. Hell... I think even some of the folks here on the boards have asked!
This got asked about my brother and sister a lot when they were younger. Once even in our old high school by the administration when my mom was paying school fees. Sis was starting her freshman year and brother was starting his junior. We call them twinsies because they do look so much alike. And they are 23 months apart.

[Gwen]

Hey all!
I wanted to once again, thank everyone for the support and information! BUT apparently I posted this a tad too late. The day after Christmas, I took a pregnancy test and well, ta da! We confirmed it this morning and I am 6 weeks along. The doctor even saw the heartbeat. I am bouncing out of my skin right now and thought I would pass along the good news! I know I am supposed to wait for 3 months or something like that but I SUCK at keeping secrets of this magnitude about myself! I do ask for fingers to be crossed, prayers made, and protective spells as appropriate as I am HIGH risk. I am over weight, diabetic, and over 35. But I am also in great spirits and have been doing everything I can to do it right. None the less, I could use a little more good karma this way if you have any to spare! Thanks again for the well wishes and the good thoughts and advice! Oh and it took 2 days to detox from caffiene but am handling it great now! and I no longer WANT to beat the husband. He is being a watch dog in the biggest way. But it is a first pregnancy for both of us. Ok, going into rambling mode now! Have a great day and thanks everyone!

Gwen

[Kae]

Congratulations!

[Gellis Indigo]

What happy news!! Take care of yourself and the little bean!

[SHpepperKat]

YIPPEE ! ! ! ! ! ! ! That's such exciting news. Congratulations. Take good care of yourself now even more than ever.

[Saucy Sue]

That is so wonderful! Good health and happiness to you and the little one.
Try not to stress out when you hear all kinds of horror stories from other people with their pregnancies. You are unique and so will be your pregnancy. Just follow your doctor's orders, get plenty of rest, eat right, and have fun.:-D

[Cruisewench]

Try not to stress out when you hear all kinds of horror stories from other people with their pregnancies.

Better yet, don't LET them tell horror stories, I forget who said it but "telling birth/pregnancy horror stories to a pregnant woman is akin to making a friend watch Titanic before going on a cruise"

Congratulations Gwen!