WOW causes divorce

[Thistle]

http://us.i1.yimg.com/videogames.yahoo.com/feature/wedding-woes-the-dark-side-of-warcraft/1186366

theres also a trailer for Lich King imbedded in the story.

[ladyleggs]

Yes, it was a major reason behind my divorce. Before he finally woke up and realized that spending 15 hrs a day on his days off and on his days he worked, before and after work, it was too late to mend our marriage. I felt totally ignored I started finding friendship and love else where. It was so bad, I would come home from work, and he would be playing and I would go to bed. He would call me on my cell phone asking where I was, not realizing I was actually asleep upstairs. But you live and learn and he no longer plays the game, after I left him. Maybe the next woman in his life will be luckier.

[SpeedKnight]

Holy crap... SM better slap me in the face with realization right now if there's something I do this with.

[Mistress Morigianna]

my ex played evercrack.....(everquest)

[Phoenix McHeit]

Holy crap... SM better slap me in the face with realization right now if there's something I do this with.

These ladies in the article prolly tried to. That's just the trouble. The guys didn't hear it.

Jocelyn doesn't hesitate to cite Warcraft as the main reason for her divorce and remains emotional about its impact on her marriage. "I'm real, and you're giving me up for a fantasy land. You're destroying your life, your six-year marriage, and you're giving it up for something that isn't even real."

"I bought the game for him for Christmas 2004, when it first came out. By May we had our first serious discussion about where our marriage was going, and by September I had moved out," she said.

[surlywench]

"They build it in such a way that you have to keep putting more and more time into it to maintain your status. I remember thinking when I was married that it was downright exploitative to people who couldn't control themselves in that way. It's set up like a drug."

not really. but okay.

i'd just like to point out that there's also controls built in to limit game play, there's a way to password protect an entire computer, and if all else fails, there are cords on the computer that can be taken away so that the damn thing can't connect to the power outlet.

if it wasn't WoW, it could have been something else. Some people have addictive tendencies. You can either help to control them, or you can't. Relationships are a two way street. Addiction is incredibly powerful. If it truely *IS* an addiction, then it needs to be treated seriously no matter what the medium of addiction is. If the player is just clueless, then it also needs to be handled accordingly.


and I'd also like to point out that while the things you're *doing* in WoW aren't real, the friendships, teamwork, hard work and sense of accomplishment you get from raiding are very real, and very valid. In an MMO, you can't just skip out in the middle of a raid - it's not like a game where you can hit "pause" and sit down to dinner. There are 9 or 24 other players, just like you, at their computers, paying their $14.95/mo working on these raids with you. It's not always easy to just replace someone with another player at a moment's notice. Now, that said, it's up to the player to make sure that they're managing their RL with their Game Life. Don't commit to a raid on a day or at a time when you've something else planned. These things are arranged usually a week or two in advance, most of the time.

[DoñaNina]

I got into a bit of a fight with Kickstand a year ago when I was severely addicted. I would get really snappy with him whenever I was on. Now it's not so bad, and I only play 2-3 hours a day.

Unless it's Friday night raid night. Then we're on together for at least 6 hours..

[Cyranno DeBoberac]

In an MMO, you can't just skip out in the middle of a raid - it's not like a game where you can hit "pause" and sit down to dinner.
Although there are some people whom you wish would...

LEROY JENKINS!!!!!

:wink:

[Pathos]

Now, that said, it's up to the player to make sure that they're managing their RL with their Game Life. Don't commit to a raid on a day or at a time when you've something else planned. These things are arranged usually a week or two in advance, most of the time.
That's probably why (with the exception of a 4 month break recently) I've been playing the game since about 6 months after it came out and my main still has greens.

8-)

[DoñaNina]

Yeah but they're Outland greens...

http://www.pennyarcademerch.com/pat070311.html

[Pathos]

Yeah but they're Outland greens...

http://www.pennyarcademerch.com/pat070311.html
Greens are only the new purple when compared to pre-BC purple.

Compared to BC purple...my Outland greens are crap.

[DoñaNina]

I gotcha, my warrior is almost completely purple'd out. Now to work on the warlock...

[surlywench]

That's probably why (with the exception of a 4 month break recently) I've been playing the game since about 6 months after it came out and my main still has greens.

8-)

run the 5 mans for the blues. Easy upgrades :) and your crit rating is nuts - is your hit rating capped out as well?

[Phoenix McHeit]

run the 5 mans for the blues. Easy upgrades :) and your crit rating is nuts - is your hit rating capped out as well?

Funny... it looks like English..... ;-)

[Pathos]

My crit rating isn't that good. If I had a decent set of PvP gear it would be way more.

I haven't actually played Fairbanks in awhile. I have no idea what my hit rating is.

[Pathos]

Funny... it looks like English..... ;-)
Allow me to translate.

run the 5 mans for the blues. Easy upgrades :) and your crit rating is nuts - is your hit rating capped out as well?
Go on some 5 player dungeon quests for superior quality equipment. An easy upgrade from your good equipment. And your chance of landing a critical strike while in combat is very high. Is your chance to hit also very high?

8-)

[surlywench]

Allow me to translate.


Go on some 5 player dungeon quests for superior quality equipment. An easy upgrade from your good equipment. And your chance of landing a critical strike while in combat is very high. Is your chance to hit also very high?

8-)

rofl. i should post some of the stuff from wow_ladies. a good discussion can often resemble some sort of weird alien shorthand :)


and is he primarily a pvp toon? or a pve toon? or both?

[Phoenix McHeit]

Allow me to translate.


Go on some 5 player dungeon quests for superior quality equipment. An easy upgrade from your good equipment. And your chance of landing a critical strike while in combat is very high. Is your chance to hit also very high?

8-)
*rotfl**rotfl*You're adorable - thanks!!!

[Chrystiana]

Ummm... yeah. That's just sad. I have to admit though, most of my time at home is spent on Wow, but I spend more time away from than I do at home and I don't sacrifice sleep.

[ladyleggs]

Im glad someone spoke up. I was reading this and thought have I got a learning disability? I dont understand what they are talking about. Greens? To this southern girl, I was thinking mess of greens? creasy greens? mustard greens?

[Calimaryn]

It is my belief that the couple that games together stays together. Hubby & I started gaming together for a very long time. Currently he plays both WoW and EQ2, the later with me and our RL friends.

The key is communication. Both parties must be communicating!

[The 6th Rogue]

I wish I could get my wife into games but she get motion sick after a couple minutes with almost all video games.

She and I had "the talk" about the fact that I play both SWG and WoW. We set down allowed times where I play giving her the chance to do anything else she wants. One set session of each game (SWG Wednesday nights and WoW Saturday mornings) and the odd occasional random drop in because she's got something else to do or I just really want to play to the point I can't concentrate on anything. It's worked out well enough so far. I let her know - it's a hobby that I find very engaging and it costs next to nada a month to do. In this world of out of control gas prices and most hobbies costing a ton of money it's a savings more than a time waster. We balanced it out with assigning equal time on set days to spend together doing things as a couple.

Like you said, Calimaryn, the key is communication.