the church talk

[syndony]

Happy New Year Ladies,
I realize I don't post on this board, I usually post on the Hussie's Hangout, but I have a question and figure this is the place to ask. Here's what's going on: My father-in-law just got married to his high school sweetheart in December. She's a sweet, warm-hearted lady but she's also very religious and is influencing my father-in-law. This can be a good thing BUT everytime he talks to my dh on the phone, dh gets the 'church talk'.
You know the one; You should go to church, You need to go to church, Why aren't you in church? etc. This kind of talk is doing nothing but turning us away from trying to find any kind of religious/spiritual community. How do we tell him tactfully that we don't want or need to hear his preaching? We don't want to alienate him and us. But we're starting to get very tired of the 'church talk'. I"m willing to go to church, but I don't want to be pressured into it. To me it's a personal thing.
Any thoughts, suggestions will be appreciated.
Peace,
Syndony

[Nevada]

Well, just be honest...tell him you're very happy that he is strong in his faith, but that it is a personal decision on when and where you attend religious services and you don't want to discuss it any longer. Reassure him you love him and like his new bride and that they have a common interest is wonderful but that you don't currently share that interest and would prefer to discuss other things with him than religion.

[syndony]

Thank you. Sometimes tact and diplomacy elude me and this situation will take that. And Eddie doesn't want to get into an argument with his dad and possibly cause a rift since they're relationship appears to be improving. The death of Eddie's mom is the catalyst for the improved relationship. It's a shame that it had to happen this way but at least something good is coming out of it.
peace,
Syndony

[Holly]

I second her idea......

maybe you can meet them sort of halfway.. go to their church once and .. if you don;t feel at home then kindly tell them that..
that way they kknow you tried it....


shrugs

dealing with the same here syd......

[syndony]

Thanks girls, I'll tell you what happens the next time the church talk happens.
such a personal and potentially touchy subject
Holly, let me know how things go with your situation, ok?
Syndony

[Holly]

well I just nod and smile..a nd when i am at my parents house i go to their church. I respect nearly alll religions and beliefs and i have a healthy appriciation for my parents whole church-thang....

but i am still deciding myself.. if i end up anywhere other than that church .. i might as well as stay in th broom closet.....
:)
I dont think at this point i would be able to do much else ....

holly

but i iwll keep you posted if i do anyhing else.
okies:)