Really bad day.

[Gemdrite]

Ugh, this day just keeps getting worse and worse. I woke up not feeling well. My boss essentially called me a liar to my face three times, kept criticizing my work (while claiming she wasn't singling me out, although she didn't criticize anyone elses. I work in housekeeping on a college campus.) and then, to top it all off, my boyfriend tells me that he is going to be playing computer games with someone that I can't stand during one of the few times I normally get to see him during the week. I have been having issues with him spending time with this guy, and have told him that on more than one occasion, but it just doesn't seem to sink in. This guy totally screwed me over more than once this past semester, and then, when my boyfriend called him on it (it is a supposed friend of my boyfriend's), he told my boyfriend that "he was making a conscious effort to be nice" to me, so that he could preserve our "friendship." I have made it perfectly clear that I don't consider his a friendship worth saving, and I don't like the influence he has over my boyfriend. But it seems like no matter what I say to my boyfriend, it doesn't sink into his head that I can't stand the guy and don't want to have anything to do with him. And that I don't like him having anything to do with the guy, because he is a very cruel, self-centered, chauvenistic jerk who has told my boyfriend that he should "put (me) in my place." Maybe I am just overreacting, but regardless, some good vibes this way would be greatly appreciated...I just feel like worthless crap right now.

[Angel_of_Fire]

hey! i sorry about your bad day! i know how it is with people and their friends. my best friend's boyfriend is a total jerk. he hits her, calls her stupid, tells her that i and her mother don't love her and that he is the only person she has! people can be so weird. you point that out and they don't belive you. i hope you have a better rest of the week and that you know that we (especially me!!!) are ALWAYS here for you!!! btw happy summer solstice!!! sorry yours was a bummer though!

[rosefaeries]

Sorry to hear about your bad day. Maybe screaming into a pillow will help. Or my personal favorite, a long hot bath with bath salts of your choce and a book of your choice. (I find a certain brand of romance novels to be the best for this. Reason is you can usually get the used for about 25 cents. So if you drop it in the bath water, it is just a minor irritation.)

I hope your week goes better.

[Gemdrite]

Well, thanks for the posts and the ideas, but this week has just gone downhill like you wouldn't believe. I have been sick physically lately anyways, and now mentally and emotionally I am so screwed up I don't know what to do. We got into a huge fight again yesterday, because I found out that he has been lying consistently to me for the past month, again about the same jerk as before. I tried pointing out that the only time my boyfriend lies to me is when it involves this guy, and he just doesn't seem to get it. I can't take much more of this. I love him to death, but this is killing me inside. And all he does is sit and defend the guy. The people I have talked to (who know the entire situation and all involved) have told me I am completely right and that my boyfriend is just being a childish jerk about this. I wish it was faire season for me...I wanna go home.

[Angel_of_Fire]

well all i can tell you is to take a bath and think! :bath: (but dont think too much!) take time out for you to think about the situation but like i said not too much( if i think to much i get mad and the bath is spoiled because im mad and frustrated) so take a breather and sit and think about what your next move is. i know im young and not too bright but i know that if you make stupid choices without thinking you will regret them. i hope this helps!

[Mairi the Herbwench]

If he's been lying to you for a month about this, what else does he lie about?

Drop him. It'll be hard, but will it be any harder than what you're going thru now? The old Ann Landers question: are you better off with him or without him? Only you know, but also know that you are worth an honest partner that works with you, not against you.

[Alleahnna]

From painful experience, if someone will lie to you about one thing, especially for an extended time period, they will lie about others. This is a time to be thinking only about yourself and that you deserve someone that is honest and respects you. So respect yourself first and be sure that he is everything you want.

Please do not fall into the trap of thinking, he's a great guy except for this or that....and if I just give him time, he will improve, change etc. I know how painful it is, finding a guy you love so much, then realizing you may have to walk away, especially when you see those special qualities there. But, and this is a big but, if someone will allow close friends to treat you with disrespect, then in some way, he is buying into it as well, otherwise they would not be friends.

You deserve more, better and keeping someone with this negative energy around you only blocks someone wonderful from coming into your space. And with that all said, follow your heart and be true to yourself, whether you stay right now or move on. Good luck with this.

Ahn