This year just keeps getting better - NOT!

[Wolves Lady]

Well, things didn't work out, and now we are getting divorced :shock: :( :? I came home from vacation to just one big fight after another, and this is how it ended.

I'm not quite sure what to say - I feel a huge sense of relief that its over/resolved in some sense, but at the same time, it's killing me.

This year just totally sucks :tantrum:

My dear sweet husband called my Mom last night and accused her of being the reason for "Everything" since I have been spending so much time with her during the day since my father died, so now she is a basket case thinking she caused this (despite me telling her that she is in no way responsible) and is really upset because she told me she knows how much she misses my dad, and doesn't want to be responsible for me being lonely.

:cry:

[Lady Laurel]

I am sooo sorry. :grouphug:
I know one thing though your mom will be the constant in your life forever. Try to get her calmed down. He was just being spiteful.

[AnnaFaerie]

My thoght on your husband's behavior towards your mother is that he showed his true colors when he called her. He is a childish, hateful, person. Tell her to consider the source....and let it go.

You may be lonely for a little while....you know..you can get used to anything. If you have a boil on your butt for a month...you learn to live with it...you do everything you can to fix it and make it go away. Once it is gone...you are surprised that you kinda miss the thing...then one day you go..."ahhhhh" that pain in the ass is gone.

Hug your mom and thank her for being there for you. Tell her to blow what he said to her off and not worry about it. The marriage didn't work for many reason (all of us that are divorced know all about that)....it is doubtful your mom was the reason. It sounds more like he was a child instead of the man we all need.

Most importantly....treat yourself gently until you feel better. And yes...that day will come.

[KissMeKate]

If you need a shoulder to cry on, you can have mine this Saturday at the meeting. I'd offer to lend you Richard's shoulder, but that can wait if you're angry at all men. Let me know if there's anything the Local can help you with (support, venting, etc.).
:grouphug:

[Myfanawy]

Hang in there, dear. You've always got us to vent to. Make sure you spend as much time as you can with that wonderful mother of yours (who is in no way responsible for the divorce.) I know there's not much I can say that will make going through a divorce any easier, but I do send hugs your way. :grouphug: We're here for you. :)
--M