Needing some love :cry:

[Sparrow]

it is very hard for me to write this. i am generally the emotional rock, the one everyone turns to when they fall apart. i like that, i like to be the shoulder to cry on. it takes a lot to shake me up and even more to really upset me. i try to find the happy things in life and share them. i know i have a full support system here in both friends and family if i need it.

for some reason i feel better turing to you wise ladies for support, the smart, savy women behind the clever names and cute avatars.

so.....here it is.......my mom is in the hosiptal. she has had two small strokes in the past two days. i love my mom more than the sun and the moon put together. i am very close to both of my parents ~ they taught me everything and are a gigantic part of who i am today. i don't know what i will do if i lose her.

i feel selfish, i grew up with the perfect family. i knew all of my grandparents very well and was priviledged to spend large chunks of time with all four of them. We vacationed together. my grandparents vacationed with my other grandparents, and even drove out to California together.

my parents are still together (34 years!) and still love each other. growing up my mom was everything to my brother and i. mom always wore her hair short and never wore make up....yet she'd roll down the hill with us or bake cookies with us at a moments notice. mom would show up on the first truely hot day, or the first good snowfall at our elementary school and announce "I want my kids".. then we'd go swimming or sledding because mom wanted to share it all with us.

i have always known my mom is a really special lady, i still talk to her on the phone every day (even though I am in my 30's an married). i guess it just surprised me how much i still need her.

go home and hug your mom for me

-k

[ambar]

:pweeease: Oh my!! :grouphug:

Sending warm thoughts to you and your Mom. My Mom and I are like that. Just.... HUGS!

[Drea Beth]

::Hugs::

[Laneya]

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:

[Nimue]

Poor sweetie... :grouphug: I hope she will come through ok! She will be in my thoughts and prayers.

Blessings to you and your mom,

Nimue

[Lady Laurel]

O Sparrow- hugs to you. Be stronge and tell her how special and how much you love her. Make evey moment count. I understand the agony your are going through I have been there. Bargaining with God and praying every 10 seconds for one more day.
I don't have anything very good to say but that my praryers are with you and stay stronge. You are lucky to have every second with her make it count.

[Mairi the Herbwench]

I lost my mom when I was 15, and after a less than ideal childhood. My mom was always the rock and I still miss her, it's been over 30 years now.

Let your mom know you love her, spend as much time as you can with her, and plan on being a part of her rehab. Strokes are usually recoverable - with time and patience. You are all in my thoughts, and we're all here for you.

[Myfanawy]

My thoughts are with you, dear. I know this is a very difficult time for you, and I'm sending strength and pink light your way, as well as a big *hug*.

I am going back to CA next week to visit my family, so I will definitely give Mom a big 'ol hug, per your advice.

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug:
--Myf

[Galleywench]

You know we are here for you!!
Hugs..and good energy of all sorts sent your way.

[erinrai]

My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your mother. I will definitely give my mum a big hug as well. My heart is definitely with you, it is hard to watch a loved one go through that but they can get better again. Especially if they feel that they are loved. My grandmother had a stroke almost 10 years ago and the docs said she wouldn't live. She is now 83. She says it was all the love around her that made her better again. :grouphug:

[Ferret]

HUGS!! My father had open heart surgery a couple months ago and that was a scare to us, but he is doing great. A friend of mine's mother had a pretty bad stroke a few years ago, but you would never know it now. Wishes to you and your family!

[Bean]

My sister had a stroke (fairly major one at that) about 15 years ago. She made an almost complete recovery, some paralysis of her right hand/arm, and slight hitch to her walk. What was amazing was that she was back to work teaching in 2 months!! It takes alot of hard work and lots of love, which it sounds like your mom has. Remember to keep encouraging her and supporting her throughout her recovery!!

[Alleahnna]

Hugssssssssssss and my prayers and thoughts are with you.....as well as lots of loving positive energy for a good recovery and many many more years to share with you.

[Lady Ciara]

:grouphug: :grouphug: :grouphug: I'm including your mom and your family in my prayers. My dad had a serious stroke almost two years ago and he has almost made a full recovery.
It 's hard to see someone we love not respond to us like they once did because of a stroke but it gets better during the recovery. Keep strong.

I sent my mom a spiritual hug. Today is her birthday. I lost her 13 years ago, but I feel her with me everyday. You never truly lose the ones you love. Peace and Hugs .

[Mylilpinkpig]

:grouphug: I will be adding your mom to my prayers tonight.

[BuxomBrigid]

((((Hugs)))) I'll be sending many prayers our tonight for you and your mother.

[Elsbeth McCoughllie]

:grouphug: Please know that you and your family are in my prayers. My relationship with my mom has only gotten to a great place in the last few years and I really appreciate it. Every day I brag about her. I can't imagine what it would be like if she got sick. SO I'll be thinking of you and praying that this experience is short lived!! :hearts:

[Sparrow]

Thanks gang. I appreciate all of the hugs and positive energy.

I spoke to mom yesterday and they have found a small "something" in her brain. THen proceeded to do loads or tesets to find out what "something" is.

-K

[Elsbeth McCoughllie]

:hearts: :bath: :hearts:
Take a healing bath and replenish yourself while we redouble our efforts on your behalf!! :grouphug:

[Miatawolf]

<<<<<Really Big HUGS>>>>>>>>>

I understand what your mother meaning the world to you means. I wasn't quite as lucky as you in growing up but since I moved out and learned some my mother and I have had a wonderful relationship. I wouldn't trade it for anything. I also talk to her alot infact my entire family we talk alot. I send good wishes and strong healing energy to you both. I wish there was more we could do for you. If there is PM me.

[daBaroness]

I've on occasion thought the same thing - what WILL I do when mom goes? I too, had the most awesome mom - a role model in so many ways. She was the perfect 50s wife and mother; could make a nickel sing, sewed almost all my clothes as well as draperies, window treatments, slipcovers that looked like upholstery; Barbie clothes that put Mattel to shame; made wonderful lunches for our lunchboxes including fresh-baked desserts. She had time to play and played a special song on the piano while we raced to get ready for bed (clever woman she).

We didn't have much money growing up, but I never knew that. She was PTA president, a room mother; gave counsel far more sage than Dear Abby. She always astounds me with her intelligence, her compassion, her energy. Although she says she never wanted more than to be a good wife and mother and just went to work outside the home to help make ends meet and provide my brother and me with the opportunity to attend college, she developed an amazing career including trust officer, customer service director and a top-ranking public speaker on women's empowerment issues and skills, team building and working with all sorts of people.

July 24 she turned 73 years old - although I challenge anyone to guess her age looking at, talking to or observing her in action. Her own mother passed away short of her 65th birthday after a life-long struggle with diabetes and complications. My grandmother and my great grandmother were my mother's role models - as she has been so powerfully mine. I know I come from an amazing legacy of women who really defined the best of women - strength, compassion, intelligence, grace and a loving and forgiving spirit I will strive my lifetime through to emulate.

Although grandma has been gone over 30 years - mom misses her still. Mostly she misses my grandmother's gentle, thoughtful and unflappable strength in tough times. My mother still speaks to my grandmother - grandma is one of her guardian angels - so in many ways, she's still a powerful and ever-present force in our lives.

Your mother is in my thoughts and prayers. She may have a brain aneurism like my stepfather had. It may be something else. I'll hold her in perfect healing and health. And more - I'll hold that when her time comes - you'll still enjoy her presence in your daily live as we do my grandmother and that gives you both peace and joy.

Blessings to you and yours.

[Sparrow]

YAY!

Thank you all so much for the positive energy, hugs and prayers.

Mommy is home, it was 2 mini strokes she had and is 99% back to normal. (aside from the fact she has to stop smoking, eating salt and change blood pressure and cholesterol meds)

I spent the day with her and Dad on Sunday, just sort of hanging out (yeah, I know how much of I geek and I, at 32 I STILL hang out with my parents). She looks great and is still sort of shaken up but otherwise feeling healthy. I think it was a huge wake-up call for her to change her lifestlye (she's a good girl but chain smokes and puts salt on EVERYTHING).

-K

ps ~ just to make me happy, go home and hug your moms again for me.

[Ysobelle]

Holy hell, girl, I missed this whole thread!

I'm so, so glad your mom's doing well. Huge hugs and sighs of relief to you and yours!

[Nimue]

I am so glad to hear that she is so much better, and hope that she will be 100% soon! :)

[Ferret]

Excellent!

[Alleahnna]

That is such awesome news....happy hugs and big smiles :)

and I hugged my mom today :)

[Michele the Wicked]

Late to this thread, but delighted to know your mom is well. As a salt addict, I know it will be difficult for her but, with gentle reminders and copious bribing I'm sure you will do your best to keep her in good health. You have been blessed with more time; use it well and wisely. Don't forget the bribes...

[Buxom Wench]

Previously read the thread but didn't have a chance to post -- :?

I've had your mum in my thoughts and prayers and I'm glad to hear she's on the mend :D

More prayers and blessings coming your way.

[Mairi the Herbwench]

It's not the best substitute for salt, but lemon juice can help...

I'm so glad she's better!

[Alianore DeClare]

Chiming in a little late, but here's hoping for a speedy recovery. So sorry you had to be scared like that! Glad that you have your Mom back!
Don't need to tell you to love her and enjoy her while you can. Mine, sadly, suffered mini-strokes and was never treated. She was already beginning to suffer from dementia when it happened, and we were not living near enough to even know she needed medical care.
She now lives with us, and needs complete care, but we are glad to do it for her. She's still "in there" though, and sometimes she peeks through! Which always makes us laugh, because it is usually laughter which brings out the old Rosie for a moment or two.
Glad things are better!

[Fiona Freckl'dbottom]

K.Lee I am so sorry I am just now responding to this thread but I'm glad your mom is home and on the mend. ::grouphug::

Just make sure you get on her about the chain smoking and the salt ok?

[Lady Laurel]

Glad to hear she is doing okay. Heah and your not a geek for wanting to hang out with your parents. I hang out with my mother and father in law any chance I get. :lol:

[Devon Dalaigh]

I too am a late comer to the thread - but I'm so glad to hear that your mum is doing better. My mom is 74 now - and I worry about her alot - she's back in PA and I'm in the AF stationed out here in OK. I used to try to get her to visit - but it's too much now.....

I know how much moms mean to us.... cherish yours as I cherish mine !

Again - so happy everything is going well !!!!

~Dev~