If you have an email address that looks even remotely spammy, SEND ME AN EMAIL letting me know who you are. If you have numbers in your e-mail address, if it comes from a .info or .biz, that sorta thing. I literally get about 300 new member signups a week, with maybe 10 of them being legit, so I'll leave something in the queue if I'm not sure whether you're a real person or not. Shoot me an email (webmistress at wench dot org) and let me know your username/email address and I'll get you approved right away. I try to keep on top of it when I know someone's legit, but if I have any doubts, you'll be pending indefinitely (or deleted) unless I hear from you.