Possibly THE *WORST* question you can ask a woman.

[Tink]

This woman at work just asked me if I was pregnant!!

What the fuck, possesses people to ask that COMPLETELY obnoxious question of women?

A) If I was it would be no one's business.

B) Since I am NOT pregnant, it is COMPLETELY insulting.

I told her, no I wasn't and that I have just put on some weight and unfortunately my abs is where I gain. I also informed her that that is THE MOST obnoxious question she can ask a woman and if she was smart, she'd never ask a woman that question EVER again.

She of course, immediately apologized and said she hoped I wasn't mad. However, I am FUMING. As if I *needed* to feel any worse about the shape I'm in. Then she asks me why I put on weight again, after having lost. Again, OBNOXIOUS. I told her I haven't been working out, like I used to. (However, I am thinking to myself "Why the HELL am I even explaining this to you?")

I had a woman here 2 years ago ask me the same question when she bumped into me my first semester of grad school. She asked me, like this woman did, in front of another person (which makes it THAT much worse) and at that time I laughed it off, but when I got home I really thought about it and I felt extremely hurt. (It's probably one of the reasons I started working out as religiously as I did when I had lost the 20 lbs of which I have probably gained back ALL of it.)

The kicker is I have a gyno appointment today (my yearly) and was already dreading being weighed. It's the only time I weigh myself.

Now I feel like shit and just want to roll up into a ball and cry.

LADIES THIS IS AN FYI......NEVER ASK A WOMAN THAT QUESTION.
It is nothing but RUDE. PERIOD.

[Bonnie]

OUCH!!

I'm sorry.

I've had people ask me if I was pregnant (once when I was just a tiny HAIR heavier than usual), if I was on crack (once when I'd lost so much weight due to stress that I WAS terribly thin), and, after pointedly staring at the stretch marks that were showing inadvertantly, I've had folk ask, "so....HOW many children do you have?"

[Bonnie]

Ooops. cut myself off...

Yes, it's a terribly rude question, and ANY question pertaining to a woman's body is rude, unless you've been invited to discuss the matter.

[eeyore]

*HUGS* Tink!

It is so very rude!! People are tactless idiots. I get asked that all the time up here. (I carry a lot of my weight in my stomach, too.) It's very hurtful and one day, I may smack someone. One time at a faire, some girl DH knows, told me I was pregnant and when I said, no, she INSISTED I had kids before. Just cause my gut stuck out of my ill-fitting bodice. She completely ruined my day by her stupid comments.

I'd avoid that woman as much as possible. Try not to let her get you down!! HUGS!!!

[Aries]

Personally I don't even like being asked that question when I AM pregnant!

[hhrvt]

its a horrible question ive been asked twice---i have rather large breasts (and everything else) so when i wear scrubs to work, theyre not exactly flattering, but holy shit people, who would ever think to ask that????

[Jeannie Fitzgerald]

Then there is the flip side: what is the worst question you can ask a man? (Is it in?)

[Mairi the Herbwench]

I've been asked that question, and it was by someone I already knew was rude and insensitive. Avoid the idiot and remember Ann Landers reply: "Why is this any of your business?"

Also - to lift your spirits a tad (I hope) after I first started back to school, my gyn mentioned that "we need to talk about diet and exercise" and I looked her straight in the eye and siad "It's the freshman 15." She cracked up, and the subject was never brought up again.

[cyd]

Then there is the flip side: what is the worst question you can ask a man? (Is it in?)

Yeah, but that question usually isn't asked in public. ;)

Cyd (already gave Tink my opinions this morning on rude people with no manners...)

[Beatriz]

I get that question too, from time to time, because of how I carry my weight.

Once, when asked that question, I was trying to get pregnant and disappointed because I wasn't. I *promptly* burst into loud, noisy tears and wailed, at the top of my lungs "NO! How cruel of you to remind me that I can't get pregnant!!"

Of course, I wasn't really that upset. I was simply suffering from the blues of having my period. However, I was so struck by the rudeness of the question that I had to make a huge production out of it. :D

Don't people get that even if you are pregnant, you might not want to announce it to the world yet? Don't they understand there is NO reason to ask such rude, personal, none-of-your-damned-business questions?