Major Changes - Venting

[Emrld]

As some of you know I was dealing with local city council elections that had turned ugly.
Dad eneded up in a run off and after 14 years (7 terms 2 yrs each) was out voted by 117 votes. A lot of people are amazed . . . I love it when they say . . "If I had known it was going to be that close I would have gone to vote . . .or made sure my neighbors went to vote . . . ." things along those lines.
To give a little back ground . . . I have a rather unique family situation. I am 31 years old and work in a famly business. I have for the last 5 years. About in 2001 my sister and he husband moved back to town and bought the house next door to Mom and Dad's. They now have a 2 year old boy and a 5 month old girl. So my Mom has become spoiled to the fact that she gets to see her grandchildren on an almost daily basis.
Well, my Sister and B-I-L moved about 15 min away this past weekend.
So with Dad no longer on the council my parents social life will have a big drop (no more city functions that they have to attend) and with my sister not being next door . . . Mom won't see the kids as much.
Then I have the wonderful situation of I thought I finally met someone who had an interest in dating me . . . .ends up he was just looking for one thing and when I didn't give that to him . . . he lost interest. I know for a fact that I made the right choice and he was the wrong person . . .but when no one has really shown an interest in 3 years it is a hard hit to take. And, working in a family business makes it really difficult to meet possible dates.
Don't know what I am looking for here. . . think I just needed to get this all out of my system and couldn't really do that within my blood family - so I came to this family.

[ambar]

*big hugs*

I can understand the no date thing. It's been over 10 years for me. I keep having to move for jobs and then have to try to build a new base of friends. It's tough and rough on the psyche. The best I can offer for comfort is my faith that there is someone out there. Is there a club you can join or maybe something like SCA meetings and the like? That's the way I try to make friends when I wind up in a new city.

[AnnaFaerie]

I hear ya.

[Leigh]

Vent as you wish. Can understand fully. My job and my liitle one take presidince over my social life plus I live in the same town as my family. Most men (may I repeat most men, I admit some are salvageable) seem to want only the bed stuff anddisappear if you dont give that out. Although apparently because Im a single parent they think I do give it out for free.What pig men are in the town I live in. I can understand. my wonderful situation just went down the toilet a few months ago when he relized i didnt put out even after a few months. Be strong. As my mother says there is someone out there for you...Or if there isn't your way too much babe for any man. I know that dosent help but it always make me smile when i hear it

[MaidenFaeSnow]

I'm there with ya, I understand. I was alone for almost 10 years. I concentrated on myself (going back to college) and my daughter. My world revolved around her. Then I finally decided it was time to try to meet someone to fill the void in my heart that a child cannot.

I got so sick of dating after a while I was ready to check into the local Abbey. Seems a lot of men think that if you don't look like Barbie, you must be desperate enuff to give it up to anyone so you'll be a sure thing if they buy ya dinner.

I met my husband through a personals website like match.com or one of those,...american personals I think. Anyway, I had to use a site like that cuz I just didn't have any other way to meet people. I was in my 30's going to college so it wasn't like I could meet someone in school!

Hang in there hon. Maybe explore other routes to meet people and don't let other people discourage you. Everyone told me I was crazy to meet people on the Net. I asked them why they thought it safer to meet people at bars??!! At least on the net I can get some background info, talk through email and phone conversations and get a feel for the person before actually meeting them. I met David in a public place and made sure to arrive before him so he couldn't see what car I drove in case I didn't like him.

Just be careful and go with what your gut tells you. Best wishes to ya!