Hey guys, I had a question I'd like to ask, because while I've been doing the faire thing for a while, there is one little issue I'm on the fence about.
So, friendly ribbing amongst faire folk is pretty normal. Gentle teasing, that sorta thing. Saying someone looks like a saucy wench and such is cool. However, sometimes someone comes along and throws a curveball, and I'm left wondering if it was friendly ribbing or a serious punch to the gut.
I'll give you an example, but before I do that, let me just say that I'm exremely sensitive. I was bullied a lot as a kid, so being "picked on" in a less then nice way always gets to me. I'm still wondering if this was actual unfriendliness, or just another faire ribbing.. but since I didn't know this person at all, I was a little less open to out-of-nowhere insults.
So anyway, I spoke to a faire performer holding a sign leading to his show. There is a similar show at another nearby faire, so I engaged him with a greeting and said I was excited to attend his show. He responded by saying that he had a free brothel that could keep me busy. It wasn't in a charming cheerful way, he didn't laugh, he just said it with a straight face and walked away. Me being a simple sensitive type, I just kinda went back to my group, feeling put-off and sad. The next day, my boss told me that the only bad part about this faire (my boss was there on the same day) was this particular performer. He attended the show that I mentioned, and said that this person was uncomfortably rude, yelled at several children, and generally made his audience feel less than welcome. He and several other people wrote a scathing review afterwards.
So, this made me thing; well, maybe this guy was a jerk! Maybe I had every right to feel offended! But at the same time, maybe that's normal. Maybe some faire folk are cool with a few insults being lobbed their way.
How do you guys feel about it? Is it normal? Are we just sensitive creatures? I'm perfectly willing to admit that I'm in the wrong, here.